Saturday, September 27, 2008

Still Avoiding the Slammer!

Yup, that's right! I haven't found myself behind bars yet! LOL
Actually I am feeling very well, thanks in most part to the amazing comments left by all of you! :) In the past couple of days I have realized a few things about love, the human heart and others rights to choose.

I still feel sorta wierdish about the whole situation, which I know is to be expected. I've never been one to accept change easily -- luckily one of my Bach Flower Remedies is directly meant for dealing with new changes. I don't want to see my dad alone for the rest of his time here on this earth. I realize now that the heart doesn't replace, it expands. Once I realized that I could relate it to my own experiences. I've changed best friends over the years, loves have come and gone, but my own heart has never replaced, its just grown bigger to accept more loves. (As its in the process of growing bigger this very moment.) I think the same thing happened when a Woman has more than one child, her heart doesn't replace, it expands - which explains every time that I've asked my mom "who do you love the most" she always responded with "I love you three all the same". A typical mom answer eh? heheheh

So I've been gentle with my dad, it must be hard for him too. I told him that his new lady friend seemed very nice and very pretty too. I think he's rather stunned that I haven't lost it emotionally, lol, my sisters are rather impressed too. I've learned tho that just as I need to make my own choices, and follow my own path, my father needs to do the same. I trust his choices and decisions, and know that what is meant to happen will surly happen. Although I am not 100% okay with his timeline, these choices, (right or wrong - I can't judge him) are his to make. If he realizes that it was too soon, and he carries around guilt for his choices, it will be his to carry, not mine.

So again, thank you all so much for your comments, you've all made a very difficult transition in my life very easy. I am so thankful for all the words of wisdom, advice, heart felt stories and compassion. If any of you are every in the Niagara Falls area of Ontario let me know, I owe you a glass of wine ;)

Embracing the Journey,
One step at a time.
Bret =)


Sacred Suzie said...

You are doing amazing Bret, I am thoroughly impressed. You got past the seven of swords. You did it!

This Guy said...

Thanks SO much Suzie! :) You're words helped me out SO much! :) I'm so glad I had some insight as to what was up and coming ;) hehehe

Anonymous said...

Bravo Bret! You're a very amazing guy you know?!

My step-mum is also a medium ... in the beginning she tried to give me messages from my mum, and that was really stepping over the line ... I think she's learned a little bit about boundaries now.


Ayre said...

Good for you!! I'm in the area, you owe me a glass of wine!!!!

REally though, I'm glad you're able to relate now through all the words of your fellow bloggers. Hugs!! xoxox

Pam said...

Bret you've given such wise and warm advice to others, that it's just bounced back.That's all. The laws of Karma. Wishing you a happy heart,and days of joy, friend.

Anonymous said...

YAY for you! It's all good. You can release any lingering resentments you might feel with the new moon.

Oh mom liked me the least.

mrsb said...

Good for you! I know that must have been a hard choice to make for you.

Nydia said...

That's great, Bret! I imagine how long it must have taken you in deep thought to come to this conclusion, it's never easy to see the other side in hard situations, but I'm happy and proud that you came to this point allowing your dad to make his own choices - right or wrong. Seems really like when we grow old we take our parent's places, worrying & taking care of them as if they were our kids, not the opposite. That's true love. I bet he sees you now with new eyes as well.

Kisses from Nydia.

PS: You know, having kids at home is a great excuse to make these childish crafting stuff! I don't know who has more fun,me or Lucas! :o)

CrystalChick said...

Ah, a little Walnut for what ails ya??
I have two children and of course love both of them. They are obviously very different so I 'like' different things about them, but the love is always there. My daughter would say her brother is the favorite. LOL And she'd say that because I've been thru more difficulties with her. But that isn't the way it really is. And now that she has a child of her own, she'll see how things go.
We went to Canada for our 20th anniversary. Stayed at the Falls View Marriot and watched the sunrise right from our bed. Beautiful. Drove around where the wineries are and I bought quite a few bottles. ;) Things only went a little crazy when we left the Marriot and headed to where the shops/restaurants are. Just got a basic motel room because we were leaving the next day anyway but who knew there would be a karaoke stage set up in the parking lot and the guy planned on singing the whole night!! Needless to say, we checked out pretty quick and just drove for awhile. We ended up at a creepy motel 8 on the way back home. Couldn't even get under the covers because they looked so dirty.
Lesson learned!!! BOOK THE MARRIOT FOR THE WHOLE TRIP!!!! That place was wonderful! And there was a Starbucks in the lobby! Yay.

Glad you are feeling better. It might not ever be completely easy but as stuff comes up you are honoring your feelings and working with them. I think you'll do just fine. :)

Jennifer said...

Hey there.

i'm so glad that you are feeling better about all this. i'm also glad that everyone's comments, advice and support helped. :) I love blogging, mostly for all the wonderful friends that i have. :)

you are doing good. i'm very proud of you. you are a good man, and i'm sure your heart will carry you in the right direction.

i'm still sending you lots of love, hugs and support... i'm sure even though you are making headway, this isn't going to be the easiest road traveled.

plus w/ mercury being in retograde things can get topsy turvy... i know things have been AWFUL here!! ugh. :(

Best wishes & love ~ always, jenn

Sacred Suzie said...

Talk about words that help, your latest comment about the craziness you have endured brought me strength and made me and my husband laugh and shake our heads at religious insanity although of course we hate that this kind of thing happened to you. It's just so surreal! I really feel like a different species to those people when I hear these kinds of stories.

Jennifer said...

Hey there. Just dropping in to say hi and see how you are doing. hope you aren't locked up! lol :P If I'm not around before hand.. have a GREAT weekend!! :)


solsticedreamer said...

well done my lovely, you are such a big hearted person and i am glad all of us out here helped even if was with words

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